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Does “to enfold” mean to blandly excuse? There is no rage or accusation; the question of why he killed himself is never explicitly raised, although the mother suspects it lies in his harsh perfectionism:“Who, my dear child, has taken the word lovable out of your dictionary and mine, and replaced it with perfect?“I wish you had made me an enemy, I said, rather than yourself.

Yiyun Li wrote her devastating, brilliant new novel after the suicide of her son — in it, the unnamed narrator confronts the same situation, holding an …

In life we don't always get to say certain things to the people we love. She spoke to Eleanor Wachtel onstage at the Toronto Reference Library in September 2019. Her Lilia — no-nonsense and sharp-tongued — is the anti-thesis of Nabokov's shifty, delusional Charles Kinbote. Please note that CBC does not endorse the opinions expressed in comments.

They eddy.

Life interrupts. He is a poet in his own right.

Nikolai picks a little at his mother; she accepts it, almost gratefully.

That's what a writer does. ""Nikolai, the son in the novel, is an extraordinary child. Unlike many other works on the subject, Yiyun Li’s latest novel steadfastly refuses to dwell on questions of “And if there is another end beyond the dead end, it cannot be called dead, can it?”After someone dies by suicide, one of the first questions is often, “Why?” Public discussions about the subject can at times resemble a psychological autopsy, where people dissect the “clues” left behind in an attempt to find answers. “Calling Nikolai’s action inexplicable was like calling a migrant bird ending on a new continent lost,” the mother thinks to herself. To encourage thoughtful and respectful conversations, first and last names will appear with each submission to CBC/Radio-Canada's online communities (except in children and youth-oriented communities). Even her decision to write in English instead of Chinese emerges from this desire to communicate as truthfully as possible: “English is my private language. The habit of eavesdropping makes me think I'm invisible... mistakenly. "For instance, the mother-son conversations in the book were something that happened in life but never in this depth or this continuous way. Yiyun Li wrote her new novel, Where Reasons End, in the months following the suicide of her 16-year-old son.

"A lot of books on this subject fall short — and I had to see how I might also fall short in writing about the way I was feeling. “That sounds like self-pity unrestrained,” he responds, superior and impatient — a teenager. Last year, a grieving mother orca in the Pacific Northwest carried her dead calf on her head for more than 17 days and 1,000 miles. “Can one’s intelligence rely entirely on the public language; can one form a precise thought, recall an accurate memory, or even feel a genuine feeling, with only the public language?” she wrote in her memoir. How can anyone not see it that way?Here, fiction doesn’t just bleed into reality; it also gives life to the imaginary. That's how I write fiction. Yiyun Li (Chinese: 李翊雲; born November 4, 1972) is a Chinese writer who lives in the United States.Her short stories and novels have won several awards and distinctions, including the PEN/Hemingway Award and Guardian First Book Award for A Thousand Years of Good Prayers, and the 2020 PEN/Jean Stein Book Award for Where Reasons End.

There's nothing to hide here; the book was written after my teenage son committed suicide. I’ve found a perfect enemy in myself.”It’s a rare moment of candor.

"For instance, the mother-son conversations in the book were something that happened in life but never in this depth or this continuous way. https://www.newyorker.com/books/this-week-in-fiction/yiyun-li-10-01-18

That's how I write fiction. Please note that CBC does not endorse the opinions expressed in comments.

Li's award-winning novels and story collections include Born in Beijing, Yiyun Li lives and teaches in Princeton, New Jersey.

Mothers, I thought, would be perfect for that role.“You can’t be that for me, Mommy, Nikolai said.

Pseudonyms will no longer be permitted.By submitting a comment, you accept that CBC has the right to reproduce and publish that comment in whole or in part, in any manner CBC chooses. In 2012, the novelist Yiyun Li twice tried to take her own life. That's important to me."

Only once does she permit herself a note of yearning when she recalls her son’s “unhurried elegance.” He used to remind her of a gray heron.“Where Reasons End” belongs to a band of books produced in the forge of intense pain; their authors, aristocrats of suffering — think of “The Year of Magical Thinking” and “Blue Nights,” Joan Didion’s memoirs of the deaths of her husband and daughter in close succession; “Wave,” Sonali Deraniyagala’s account of the loss of her children, husband and parents in the 2004 Asian tsunami; or “Family Life,” Akhil Sharma’s thinly fictionalized account of his brother’s horrific accident in childhood.Of course, “grief,” “suffering” and “trauma” are words Li would never touch. In Yiyun Li’s novel Where Reasons End, an unnamed narrator converses with her teenage son, Nikolai, in the months following his death by suicide. That's important to me." Typically mother and son banter and philosophize, as clever (and occasionally grating) as characters out of Tom Stoppard. Pseudonyms will no longer be permitted.By submitting a comment, you accept that CBC has the right to reproduce and publish that comment in whole or in part, in any manner CBC chooses.

He's a surprising child and a lot of things interest him.

Recall the stage directions in “King Lear”: “Enter Lear with Cordelia in his arms.”At first glance, this book seems constructed of very cerebral debates between mother and son — even the epigraph, Elizabeth Bishop’s poem “Argument,” includes the line: “argue argue argue with me.” But the arguments in the novel never build. Comments on this story are moderated according to ourIt is a priority for CBC to create a website that is accessible to all Canadians including people with visual, hearing, motor and cognitive challenges.Closed Captioning and Described Video is available for many CBC shows offered onThe Chinese-American author spoke with Eleanor Wachtel about the process of writing about love, pain and grief.Yiyun Li navigates the loss of a child in her heartbreaking new novel